Anybody can feel like the whole universe going against them, when how hard one tries, no matter how much effort has been constantly put into work, one still loses, and no favorable outcomes match the amount of sweat, blood and tears.
Sometimes we have to come to terms with the fact that we can try really hard and work will high concentration, but still, things don’t always go your way. Constant obstacles demotivate us, make us question our abilities, keep us awake at night doubting at ourselves and wonder where did it all go wrong.
As a sales, this feeling sucks big time. I went through three concurring weeks without any sales, despite the number of leads I have, despite the follow-up emails and phone calls. Yes, it could be the low period, could be the pool of clients suddenly become harder to please, could be any reason.
But at the end of the day, it all comes down to one thing, have I been doing my best? Have I been trying as much as I can? Am I really not cut out for this? What’s wrong with the way I handle things? The questions keep running wild and driving me to despair, and at night, it sucks out all kind of motivation I tried to tell myself.
I managed to work out three key things that keep me from giving up and help me rising up from the bottom of self-pity well.
” It’s not a long race, it’s many short races, one after another”Walter Elliot.
You have to persevere in such circumstances. These difficult and discouraging times don’t come once and leave, it happily makes it grand return every now and then and will make sure you feel worse about yourself. And there is nothing can guarantee that you won’t have to face with hardship ever again – they come back to find you when you least expect and may stay as long as they please.
Learn to persevere.
Patiently enduring the hardship.
Persisting in waking up everyday with a smile and believing that things will work out.
Because there is no other way.
No, it’s not easy at all to stay calm. But you cannot work in the state of freaking out, or working under constant fear and pressure. The work you’ve done in this condition won’t bring you good feeling or a sense of fulfillment. You only do it to make something done, and get it over with.
There is no lesson learnt, no true experience. And the worries, the sleepless nights will only make your soul a thousand year older for no worthy reason.
Repeat to yourself, calm down. Learn about coping strategies to stay calm in crisis and stressful situations.
Take a deep breath; cry if you must, but stay calm in the tough time.
And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about”Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore
It’s not the end
Every time I face with an impossible request or requirement from client, or not hitting my targets, or don’t know how to work out a better solution for client, I keep hearing my brain saying “You’re dead, you’re dead”.
When I drag myself home, all tired inside and out, I realize I’m still alive.
When I wake up, still it’s a new day, I’m still here. The real end is when we lie down with our eyes closed, blood frozen in our veins, and a silent heart. So, no matter how bad the situation is, if you’re still breathing and still can think clearly with your brain, then you can still fight. You have another shot at turning the tables and making it alright again.
So seize it. Seize everyday. Seize every happy moment as motivation to keep going on.
And, make sure you have a few people who won’t lower you down at your worst moments. Because without a little help from true friends, you can still make it but with many more bruises inside your soul, and less hope for better days.
Doing What Matters in Times of Stress: An Illustrated Guide is a stress management guide for coping with adversity. The guide aims to equip people with practical skills to help cope with stress. A few minutes each day are enough to practice the self-help techniques. The guide can be used alone or with the accompanying audio exercises.
Informed by evidence and extensive field testing, the guide is for anyone who experiences stress, wherever they live and whatever their circumstances.